Posted: January 31, 2025
When considering moving your parents closer to family or transitioning them from their longtime home to a senior living community, it’s important to recognize that this is a major life change. It can bring up many emotions and questions for everyone involved.
With various options available, from living with family to senior communities like a Life Plan Community, understanding the best approach can help make the process smoother. In this article we’ll explore key tips for moving parents, whether it is a proactive decision while they’re in good health or a necessary transition due to increasing support needs.
At Casey’s Pond, we understand that every family’s situation is unique. The decision to move, whether now or in the future, depends on several factors, including health, lifestyle, and personal preferences.
For many older adults, moving into an independent living community prior to the onset of health concerns can be highly beneficial. It can provide a vibrant and purposeful lifestyle without the burdens that accompany homeownership. Our Life Plan option, also known as continuum of care, is designed to remove uncertainties about the future by securing access to different levels of support should your needs change over time. Residents begin in independent living apartments, and can move to higher levels of care should the need arise. Life Plan Communities are an excellent option for couples because if one person needs more care, the other is able to remain in the same community. Finances can become more predictable as well. There is a one-time entrance fee based on the type and apartment size and a monthly fee that covers housekeeping, 24-hour concierge services, fitness classes, utilities, security pendant, dining, TV, and more.
However, for some families, the decision is prompted by noticeable changes in a parent’s daily habits. Tracking these signs regularly is important, as older adults may not always recognize these changes in themselves.
Beyond behavioral changes, it is also wise to assess your parents’ current health and medical needs, which can help determine the right time for a transition. A useful tool for this is the concept of ADLs (activities of daily living) developed by Dr. Sidney Katz. ADLs measure a person’s ability to live independently based on key functions such as:
Each activity is scored based on ability, helping to objectively assess whether additional support is needed. This structured approach can make conversations about moving less emotional and more focused on well-being. Our assisted living neighborhood helps to meet a wide array of support including integrated memory support along with our Rhythms Dementia Care Program.
No matter the means of observation, if these signs and symptoms become more evident over time, having the conversation may be beneficial in discussing the next best step.
Moving closer to family may require long-term planning, including legal and financial considerations such as estate planning, healthcare directives, and power of attorney arrangements. Taking the time to prepare in advance can make the transition smoother and less stressful for everyone involved.
Before having a conversation with your parents, it’s important to gather the necessary information and assess their current situation. Even if they don’t live hundreds of miles away, distance can still be a barrier to ensuring their safety, especially if a family member cannot check in on them regularly.
Considerations when moving parents closer to family:
These conversations can be challenging, and it’s essential to approach them with empathy and respect. Involving your parents in the decision-making helps them maintain a sense of control and provides reassurance about their future.
Moving can be expensive, so it’s essential to consider the financial implications of relocating your parents closer to family. Evaluate the cost of living in locations and determine if the benefits of moving outweigh the expenses. Additionally, consider the level of care they may require, as costs vary depending on on whether they need Independent Living, Assisted Living, Memory Support, or Skilled Nursing. The cost of senior living can be influenced by amenities and inclusions. Typically, most communities have a base rate, which includes some meals, activities, programming, and utilities. There may be charges for additional support services, such as additional nursing care.
Consulting a geriatric care manager or social worker can provide valuable insight into available options and financial planning strategies. It may be wise to map out a budget that accounts for both current and future expenses your parents may need.
Reflect on the level of social support your parents have in their current location. Moving closer to family can provide them with emotional support and companionship, which is crucial for their well-being. In addition, assess the safety and security of your parents’ current living situation. Moving closer to family may provide them with a greater sense of security, especially if they are living alone.
Evaluate the quality of life your parents have in their current location compared to what they could have closer to family. Factors such as access to healthcare, recreational activities, and community engagement should be taken into account.
Nearly a third of elderly individuals admit to feeling lonelier as they age. The distance they have from the rest of the family can cause this sadness to set in. Asking parents if they experience loneliness in their current circumstances can help evaluate their emotional needs.
Another critical part of the moving process is considering your parents’ thoughts and feelings about relocating. This transition can be emotional and overwhelming, so it’s essential to include them in the conversation.
Some key points to consider include:
In addition to the considerations above, another important aspect to consider in this decision is the family dynamics and how well you and your parents get along. Their health and safety are top priorities, but ensuring you feel content with their relocation is essential for your happiness. Setting boundaries and establishing reasonable goals before they move closer can help maintain a positive relationship where both parties can benefit from each other’s presence.
Ultimately, involving your parents in the decision-making is key because while moving closer to family may seem logical, it’s essential to respect your parents’ autonomy and what will make them happiest.
After discussing these factors with your parents, the best path forward should become clearer. You may find that relocating isn’t the right choice due to scheduling challenges or their preference to stay in a familiar environment. On the other hand, moving closer to family may offer greater safety, support, and peace of mind. Senior living communities can provide enriching and worry-free lifestyle.
Whatever the decision, discussing moving options early allows for thoughtful planning and a smoother transition.
Learn more about the lifestyle at Casey’s Pond, and what residents have to say about their experiences in our welcoming, inclusive continuing care community. We’re here to answer your questions! Contact us to learn more.
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